Because her orientation is inward, toward relationships, nurturing, and “nesting,” the female of the species puts a premium on safety and security. Though she values relationships above all else, a woman does not enter into them indiscriminately. A woman cares more about being than doing, and she finds the reason for her being in relationship. She has a hidden but deep confidence in this. ” Unlike the male, who must go out into the world to find his destiny, the woman possesses her future within herself. Men want the best and will expend incredible energy toward getting it.Ī woman’s perspective tends to be more inwardly directed. In light of this, it’s interesting to note that the male brain is two-and-a-half times larger and more vital in the center devoted to aggression and action than the female brain. There’s an obvious connection between initiation and active aggression. It also suggests that leadership, while not necessarily an exclusively male prerogative, is nevertheless more deeply rooted in the nature of men and boys. All of this presumes a certain willingness and ability to “take the bull by the horns” and make things happen. Accordingly, a propensity to run a certain degree of risk is fundamental to the male character. To seize and make the most of his opportunities, a boy or a man must be willing to take chances. To put it another way, the male is a doer and in the final analysis, his feelings about what he’s doing or his reasons for doing it are less important to him than the urge and the opportunity to get it done. Generally speaking, he’s anxious to move on to the next thing. Unlike a woman, he isn’t inclined to “cuddle,” to “savor” meaningful experiences, or to “linger” in the moment. Determined to “deliver the goods.” A man places great stock in knowing that he has what it takes to complete the quest and accomplish the task at hand.He discovers his identity “out there” in the world where he senses his larger purpose and destiny lie. A male’s orientation toward life tends to be outward. Keeping these qualifiers in mind, we would suggest that the qualities he enumerates, which we’ve summarized below, represent a good starting point from which to begin building a basic understanding of essential maleness and femaleness. As Stanton is careful to point out, there are many different “styles” of masculinity and femininity, and every reader could probably cite a number of additional characteristics that seem basic to his or her identity as a man or a woman. These lists are not intended to be exhaustive – obviously, each individual is unique. What, then, are some of the key differences between males and females? In his book Secure Daughters, Confident Sons (Chapter One, “What Makes a Good Man?” and Chapter Two, “What Makes a Good Woman?”) author Glenn Stanton lists a number of distinctive traits that he believes to be characteristic of men and women respectively. They must be humanly universal: internationally, inter-culturally, and historically consistent and valid. In the course of this investigation, we must make sure that the differences we posit are genuinely creation-based and not merely culturally determined. For that we have to look to God’s design in creation and try to draw some conclusions on the basis of our observations there. To this last thought we should add that, while the Bible does underscore the importance of the male-female dichotomy, and while it does represent this dichotomy as being fundamental to human nature and offers us some basic principles, it does not give us an itemized description of maleness and femaleness, nor does it tell us exactly how this distinction is supposed to be played out in many of the details of everyday life. In some way we cannot fully grasp, it presents us with a visible image or picture of the unseen triune Creator.
The implication is clear: the distinction between the sexes is not only basic to human nature, it’s also uniquely reflective of the divine. In the very first chapter of Genesis we are told that “God created man in His own image in the image of God He created him male and female He created them” (Genesis 1:27 emphasis added). This idea is, of course, fundamental to the biblical view of mankind. What’s more, research indicates that it’s universal from culture to culture and that it finds expression in almost every area of life. The distinction between male and female is very real and very deeply rooted in human nature and human physiology.
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